How To Not Unlove Yourself

Before you read the whole article, can you do something confronting?

Stand in front of the mirror and gaze into your eyes and say the following at least 5 times: “<Your Name>, I love you!”

Say it as meaningful as you can and deliver your own words. Let it resonate within you. Refrain from looking away or avoid things that will distract yourself from looking away from your eyes. Let it be raw and simple.

What did you notice? What thoughts and feelings arose after you did this exercise? Could you hold your gaze, stare intently at yourself, and say the words I love you?

How much do you believe that you should love yourself first before loving another person? When you love yourself first, life takes care of the details because everything else is minor compared to the acceptance of one’s self.

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

Ralph Waldo

I Feel So Unworthy

It is normal to feel unlovable sometimes, and this leads to question our self-worth. But remember that self-acceptance is your foundation for living your life completely. In spite of all the doubts and fears that you have within you, find it in yourself to overcome these mind-boggling feelings. Give yourself grace in everything that you do.

You are not perfect. No one is. No one is happy all the time. No one loves themselves always. No one lives without pain. You are perfectly imperfect and be willing to embrace those imperfections. Don’t set such high standards for yourself emotionally and mentally. It’s normal to feel sadness or pain and to experience some low points in life. Allow yourself to embrace these emotions without judging yourself for them.

Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.

Steve Maraboli

Love Yourself First

Be kind to yourself. Focus more on your positive qualities and learn to improve the negative ones. Focus on your strengths, your abilities, and let go of judgments, comparisons, and self-hatred. Feel the love within you and be that love.

Forgive your past self that has been confronting you up to this present day. Work on to banish those dark parts with the light of your forgiveness. Accept that you have made bad choices but that doesn’t make you a bad person. It means that you are human. Start forgiving yourself for what you did or didn’t do, and focus on what you will and can do starting now.

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.


Embrace Yourself

Ironically, most of us are so busy waiting and searching for someone to love that we tend to forget about that one person who needs to be loved first – ourselves.

A relationship, in any form, will only make you shine brighter and bring you more love in your life. Learn to embrace solitude and allow yourself to be aware of your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. The process of loving yourself starts with understanding your true nature. Be more grateful each day for what you have and complain less about what you don’t have.

People come and go, so is life. One day, you will realize that you do not need someone else to feel complete. Because YOU are complete.


Hello, beautiful soul! Thank you for reading this article.

My name is Ellia, and I write relatable, meaningful and inspiring content that would be of value to your own personal growth. Just keep doing you and believe in yourself.  ðŸŒ»

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